tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1223054240565641353.post7463310845000544688..comments2008-05-07T18:34:01.259-07:00Splendid_IREnyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11414817969128265549noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1223054240565641353.post-61861248457788790912008-05-07T18:34:00.000-07:002008-05-07T18:34:00.000-07:00Er, my grandparents' cousins, I meant to write. I knew (and know) my grandparents very well. My grandmother is also 90, though she has always been more of a sweetheart than world-wise.<BR/><BR/>Sigh. The geography that we usually deal with is arbitrary too, and we divide up ourselves among that. Share some experiences based on the blood and the tiny hometown. I guess it's nice that people can ever manage to get beyond it, ever manage to find independent common ground at all.Keifushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00287358319899471490noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1223054240565641353.post-36314574362371104372008-05-01T10:19:00.000-07:002008-05-01T10:19:00.000-07:00<B>catnapping</B> - Thank you for your condolences. I like to think of her ways of channging curtains for different seasons. Or other small things that she did that I took for granted.<BR/><BR/><B>keifus</B> - Arbitrary is a good way of putting it. I sincerely don't expect I'll see some of those people except by accident. Or another funeral.Splendid_IREnyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11414817969128265549noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1223054240565641353.post-10419435698464779222008-04-23T12:35:00.000-07:002008-04-23T12:35:00.000-07:00There's nothing like the family funeral to gather around the lost cousins. If you think about it, the sphere necessarily shrinks every generation (I don't much know my grandparents, for example), but it's sad to see it diminishing in real time. Family's such an arbitrary grouping...but also not.Keifushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00287358319899471490noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1223054240565641353.post-50621704048329359092008-04-19T09:37:00.000-07:002008-04-19T09:37:00.000-07:00It's such a confusing mix of emotions...to be glad for someone that they've escaped their pain, and at the same time to wish that they were still here...<BR/><BR/>My condolences, Ireny.<BR/><BR/>love,<BR/>catCatnappinghttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15112190511038404999noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1223054240565641353.post-82369187479695057862008-04-10T13:41:00.000-07:002008-04-10T13:41:00.000-07:00Dawn - thanks. It's probably the only relief left to her she was in so much pain and was miserable in many ways. My mom's pretty raw, as she'd been the caretaker.<BR/><BR/>I did appreciate reading your post, and commented upon it; weird, the synchronicity.<BR/><BR/>And, it made me realize, likewise, I miss reading you.Splendid_IREnyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11414817969128265549noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1223054240565641353.post-77911581484138910712008-04-09T16:30:00.000-07:002008-04-09T16:30:00.000-07:00I'm sorry for your loss.<BR/><BR/>Reading this reminds me how much I miss reading you.<BR/><BR/>I was thinking of you when I posted <A HREF="http://wikifray.blogspot.com/2008/04/death-is-nothing-to-us.html" REL="nofollow">this <BR/></A> yesterday. I almost titled the post, "for Splendid_IREny." You'll probably also appreciate <A HREF="http://blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/2008/03/16/the-spinster-aunt-and-the-funeral-parlor" REL="nofollow">this</A>.Dawn Coyotehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05878588090733942606noreply@blogger.com